arrange for Theo to speak to your reading group, email Theo at
Reading Group Questions:
1) Although Theo's individual circumstances were unique to her family,
every divorce situation features similar challenges. What do you think
were the challenges Theo faced that most people also share when going
though divorce? How do you think her situation reflected the universal
feelings of people who are getting divorced? How did her feelings differ?
How might the narrator's experience resonate with women who haven't
been through a divorce?
3) Kirkus Reviews says that How to Sleep Alone in a King-Size Bed is “[n]ot
another slick how-to” and that “Women going through the
pain and turmoil of separation and divorce will appreciate Nestor’s
candor and wit.” Do you think men going through divorce would
appreciate this book too?
4) The narrator's mother plays a prominent role in her story.
What challenges might her mother have faced as a divorcee in her
day? Do you think the author's own divorce changed her relationship
with her mother?
5) Many states require divorcing parents to attend a “What about
the kids?” seminar. What do you think Theo got out
of her experience with the one she attended? Do you think these seminars
6) Why do you think the author is drawn to Markos? Are there
people in your life who have kept a hold on your heart?
7) Ultimately, the relationship between Theo and Markos does not work
out. Does this breakup give you insights about the conditions under
which a couple, once they’ve broken up, can ever get back together?
8) One of the most emotional moments in the book occurs when Theo travels
to Mexico to visit the town where her sister was raised after their
parents divorced. How did your opinion of their parents change after
reading this chapter? How did your opinion of Theo change? Why is reading
the letter from the narrator's sister Kathy a turning point for the
9) The narrator begins to claim the king-size bed for her own by sleeping
in different spots on the bed. What are some things you have
done to reclaim yourself after a relationship ends? What did
you discover about yourself in doing so?
10) What does the narrator ultimately
learn about herself (or others) that she might not have learned if
she'd remained married?